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It is not right to deny our spouse the sexual fulfillment that marriage so much
needs just because we're mad at them or we're having a bad day. Nothing could be
further from the truth.
Feelings of bitterness are caused by an unforgiving attitude. Please go back and
read my articles on how to forgive properly. Jesus said we are to forgive
seventy times seven...forgiving properly means that we don't harbor the pain
anymore, and that means we don't bring up the issue with our spouse again!
Period!
Ladies, we are in control when it comes to the sexual aspects of the marriage.
Learn to use that to your advantage. After sex is the best time to discuss any
other issues that are bothering you. Be nice, and express yourself lovingly and
appropriately. Don't nag and complain.
Many couples don't discuss their sexual preferences with each other. But this is
not the time to be shy either. It's very vital to the sexual health of the
marriage that couples express their pleasures in the bedroom arena. Both need to
know and be acquainted with the zones and parts of the body, which are capable
of producing pleasurable sensations.
Below are a few guidelines to take note of for a great sensual and passionate
marriage, even after ten, and twenty years of marriage!
1. Allow spouse the freedom to be who they are. Be understanding and considerate
of their feelings at all times, not just in the bedroom.
2. Communicate any sexual issues and problems that have developed in the
marriage. Let go of your sexual inhibitions and express your pleasures in the
lovemaking arena. Ladies, men like to give pleasure to their wives, so now is
your chance to speak up and tell him what you like.
3. Thank God everyday that you are married to a person who is willing to discuss
and express these issues with you.
4. Always be loving and available. Sometimes we women just aren't in the mood.
But it doesn't matter; give yourself to your husband anyway, unless you are sick
or going through menstruation.
5. Create an appealing bedroom that you both like. Redecorate it with tasteful
decor that you both have picked out.
6. Make yourself attractive and pleasing to each other. Buy a new skimpy
nightgown, and men buy some bikini briefs. If you already wear that kind of
under clothing, buy some silky cartoon boxers - something different that you
wouldn't normally wear.
7. Be romantic and loving. Light some aromatic candles for a sensual and
romantic atmosphere.
This is for the ladies reading this. I have learned through experience that men
NEED to have sex. Some men like it everyday, others every other day, while
others maybe two times a week. Be ready when your husband wants to have sex.
Don't reject your husband for just any reason; make him feel loved and good
about himself. Men love this kind of sensual pampering.
When we reject our husband, that is when they begin THINKING about looking
elsewhere to find fulfillment, and we don't want that, do we ladies? So often we
take our husband for granted in this area, and don't realize the importance of
sexual fulfillment for the man in our life. Don't give him any reasons to look
elsewhere, take care of him!
This is for the men reading this. The most important thing you can do for your
wife is to not rush into the lovemaking act in 30 seconds. Come on now, be more
considerate. You know it takes your wife a bit longer than you. Tell her how
much you love her, and rub her all over, wherever she likes it. Be more patient
in the bedroom, your time will come soon enough.
Bottom line, do not deprive or reject each other! A happy sexual relationship
involves right attitudes. It is God's will that married couples enjoy sexual
relations with each other. Find out what wheel is missing in your marriage and
fix it.
"The wife's body does not belong to her alone, but also to her husband. In the
same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.
Do not deprive each other except by MUTUAL consent and for A TIME, so that you
may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so Satan will not
TEMPT you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinthians 7:4-6
About the Author: Angie Lewis writes on subjects such as love,
sex, and intimacy between couples. Her books center on the biblical foundations
that God outlines for couples to follow for an exceptional marriage. Angie
writes numerous articles and e-books covering such issues as adultery,
addictions, temptation, and forgiveness in marriage. See website for more
information about Angie's books or online marriage ministry.
http://www.heavenministries.com
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