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Even if you're used to seeing him in suits, there's something exceptional about
the way he looks in a tuxedo. We have to admit that a man in a tux looks
awesome.
But let's get real. Let's talk
about weddings held outside in the summer on the Southwest dessert - or anywhere
in the south where the humidity races with the temperature to determine which
can go the highest. Putting him and his attendants in a tuxedo is like putting
them in a sauna, turning up the heat and leaving them there to cook.
Of course everyone is uncomfortably hot. The bride in those yards and yards of
fabric at least can go strapless as can the bridesmaids. But the groom and
groomsmen have a long sleeved shirt, a vest, a cummerbund and a jacket that
could keep them warm in Alaska. The air flow is completely cut off at the neck
because he's strangled with a necktie that is uncomfortable even in winter.
So what can you do about it?
Show me the rule written in stone that says the groom has to wear a jacket.
There are some wonderful shirts that can be worn without a jacket and still look
quite elegant. Or you can have shirts made to fit the theme of your wedding. A
white tuxedo shirt with wonderful studs and cufflinks and a bow tie - and
perhaps suspenders - can be quite elegant and make a statement that weddings are
as much about setting your own style and being comfortable as about trying to
out-dress those whose ceremony is held in the air conditioned comfort of a
church. Another idea is to let the groom and his attendants wear a vest that
matches the bridesmaid's color and go without the jacket - or wear the tuxedo
shirt and black vest with a tie that matches the color or the bride's
attendants.
If you want to get creative, you can choose a themed wedding that allows
everyone to be comfortable. A Hawaiian theme, for example, allows the bride to
choose something beautiful and elegant and the rest of the wedding party to come
in loose fitting, Hawaiian type shirts and dresses. The guests can also come
dressed Hawaiian if they wish. I once officiated at a wedding in a muumuu, at
the bride's request. The wedding was on the 4th of July, the temperature was
still 112 degrees at 6 p.m. and the wedding was wonderful. Everyone was
comfortable and stayed to party long after the ceremony was over. The bride wore
a beautiful, cool long dress as did her attendants. The groom wore an elegant
Hawaiian wedding shirt and the groomsmen were in flowered matching Hawaiian
shirts. They had the traditional wedding leis flown in from Hawaii and lei for
each of the guests. It was a memorable wedding.
No one missed the tuxedos.
About the Author:
Irene Conlan is an ordained, non-denominational minister in Scottsdaale, AZ and
the Phoenix metropolitan area. She delights in designing unique, custom weddings
that are personal and spectacular for each couple.
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