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News of where a couple is
registered should be passed along by word of mouth from close friends and family
members and never included with the wedding invitation.
The Bridal Registry
The bridal registry is a free service offered by most department and specialty
stores used as a vehicle through which a bride and groom can tell guests exactly
what they need and want. The couple chooses the items they would most like to
receive and when gifts are purchased from the registry it is recorded so people
can tell what has or has not been purchased. The advantages are obvious, those
buying the gifts do not have to struggle with what to get, and the couple does
not have to spend a lot of time after the honeymoon returning duplicates or
items not compatible with their home decor or lifestyle. Registering should
begin as soon as the engagement is announced. Most couples register at two or
more places. The bride and groom should check around to find the department or
specialty stores that have the patterns and styles of goods they want. Couples
should also consider where most of their guests will be able to shop when they
buy their gifts. Some stores now provide nationwide registry information through
a chain of store locations or via the Internet.
Both the bride and groom should register; after all, they are both going to live
with the gifts they are given. The couple should register for as much as
possible. Many couples feel uncomfortable doing this, but they should not. The
more items they register, the easier it will be for guests to shop for gifts
without duplications.
Registering
Registries exist in a variety of places. Most commonly, people will register at
department or specialty stores for housewares and other home accessories.
Hardware, camping gear and sporting goods have joined the list as
non-traditional registry items. Other unique options include a honeymoon
registry through the couple's travel agent, where guests can give money toward
the actual honeymoon. Some furniture stores also offer similar registries.
After shopping around and the decision of where to register is made, the store's
registry department should be called to find out the best time to go in. Weekend
afternoons and sale days should be avoided, and a minimum of an hour should be
set aside for the excursion. Keep in mind that all decisions don't have to be
made on the first trip. It is very common for couples to make two to three
visits to the store before their final choices are selected.
Depending on the store, a sales associate may assist the couple in registering,
even setting up place settings to see how the crystal, china, flatware and
linens complement one another. Other sales associates may simply provide a
special scanner, explain how to operate it and leave the shoppers to browse and
make their selections. Whatever process is used, in the end a record of items
desired will be available to anyone requesting the couple's registry
information. From that point on, whenever someone buys a gift and indicates that
it is for that couple, the store will mark that item off as purchased. It is
wise to check in with the registry periodically to keep the people there
informed about any gifts that are received early.
In the end, couples must remember that use of a bridal registry will not prevent
some duplication or eliminate all hassles. Not everyone will shop through a
registry, so be prepared to be tolerant.
Better to Give Than to Receive
As more couples are getting married at a later age in life, many are finding
they already have everything they need and prefer not to receive gifts. Couples
who find themselves in such a situation may declare "no gifts" or may ask that
their guests donate money to a certain charity in lieu of a gift. This generous
gesture not only keeps the couple from receiving many items they may never use,
but it can also go a long way in helping others!
Thank You
No matter what type of gift is given, a "thank you" is always necessary. Be sure
that as gifts are opened it is immediately recorded what was received and from
whom. Thank you's should be sent as soon as possible after the gift is received,
generally within two to three weeks. Even if the person has already been thanked
in person, a written note is still a must. A thank you note should include
mention of what the gift is and if it's appropriate, its usefulness, along with
the appreciation of it. In the case of money the amount should not be mentioned,
but how it is planned to be used may be included.
About the Author:
Rebecca Sherman is an editor at ModernWeddingPlanner.com
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