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Establish a budget, stick to
it and don't deviate.
This is often a neglected characteristic of planning a wedding. It is essential
to get your budget in order before making any financial decisions. Too often,
many couples book a reception location or a wedding day professionals without
solid financials in hand, only to find out they have overspent and are now bound
by a contract. Big tip: Use a number for the budget that is 10-15% less than
what you actually plan on spending, so you essentially have a buffer when
additional expenses arise, because they will. The great thing is that if you
don't use your entire buffer, you will have some extra spending money for your
honeymoon.
Hire Wedding Professionals.
When your best friend's second cousin volunteers to do be your wedding
photographer, and promises a nice discount, it might be tempting to take
advantage of the offer. However, a big word of caution - hiring friends and some
cased family can often backfire. Expectations may not be met on the wedding day
and friendships can become estranged. Additionally, these friends may not have
all the necessary experience or equipment to complete the task effectively. You
should hire wedding professionals for their experience, expertise, and
resources. True professionals will assist in making your day hassle free. You
hire them, you can direct them, and the relationship is not personal.
Compare apples to apples, not apples to oranges
Many times, when a bride begins a search for a reception location or for wedding
vendors, she simply compares prices, not services or characteristics of the
services. It is rare that you will find two locations offering the exact same
"package," or two videographers that offer the same quality of service (time and
style) and amount of product (prints and albums). You need to carefully evaluate
each aspect of the potential venue or vendor. What seems too expensive at first
glance may actually be a better deal when you realize what it offers compares to
others in the same category.
Be different - cookie cutter weddings are out of style.
Brides and groom continue to look for new ways to add personal flavor to their
wedding day. Giving your wedding personal style does not mean doing the same
thing your best friend did, or what you watched on Entertainment Tonight about
Nicole Kidman's wedding. Think out of the box. Hiring a wedding planner or event
designer, even for a few hours, can help you be inspired and lead to amazing
results. Instead of a guest book, have guests sign a coffee table book on a
subject that is of interest to you. Learn an unexpected choreographed first
dance, like the tango, and wow the crowd.
Surround yourself with the positive people.
When selecting a wedding party and asking other friends to be involved in the
wedding, select people who have positive attitudes and those who, as Bill
O'Reilly says are, "lookout for you". Single girlfriends, your older single
sister, even your brother may feel a tad envious of your engagement. For the
most part, this is a passing phase, but that does not make it any easier for you
to deal with. These people may often criticize your decisions, attempt to have
attention diverted away from you with their own theatrics, or simply try to make
themselves the focus of many decisions (the style of the bridesmaids dresses,
what foods they like or dislike for the meal, or which date for the wedding is
"better" for her schedule). If and when this situation arises, try your best to
walk away from it and ignore it. Realize their behavior is not your fault, and
if they must be included in the celebrations, have your mother or a trusted
friend intercept the stressful dealings with these people.
Make your ceremony mean something.
The best way to do this is to write your own vows and/or select special poems,
readings or Biblical verses. Even though the ceremony is really the only event
that needs to take place on the wedding day, so many couples put little focus on
the actual planning of the service itself. Is there a special song for you and
your fiancé, perhaps the one that was playing the night you or he proposed? Why
not walk the aisle to it and surprise your fiancé? Have you ever written a poem
or love letter to your fiancé? Read it during the ceremony, or if nerves won't
allow you to read it yourself, have the Officiant read it for you. Look into
your fiancés eyes during the ceremony and focus on the two of you and the life
you are preparing together.
Create a timeline for the wedding day.
If you are not working with a wedding planner, it is your job to create a
realistic timeline for everyone to follow. Detail and document all key elements
and activities that are to take place on the day. Include addresses of locations
and who needs to be where and when. If you do not do this, you take the risk of
all the wedding vendors establishing their own agendas. Of course, consult with
the ceremony and reception venue, as well as key vendors regarding the timeline,
but ultimately most all of the timeline decisions are up to you.
Ask for help when you need it.
It is not uncommon for a bride or groom to become overwhelmed with wedding
planning. It takes a lot of time, dedication and work. Typically there are many
people knocking at your door anxious to help--your future mother in law, your
mother, your sister, his sister, your best friend, your single best friend...the
list can go on forever. When asking for help from friends or family members,
give them specific instructions and deadlines. Also, make sure they know you
still have final say.
When wedding planning consumers every aspect of your life, take a breather.
Schedule a date with your fiancé and go to dinner, take a walk, or just go for
ice cream. There is only one rule--no wedding talk. Reconnect with the ones you
love and then get back to the planning with your mind and heart focused on the
right things. Of course these are not the only steps to planning a wedding, but
these are very important aspects of planning that will help you keep your sanity
and your focus on the reason for this whole crazy thing, love.
About the Author:
To assist you in your wedding planning efforts, please visit this
wedding planning guide.
Michael Brito is an Internet Marketing Consultant for small business.
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