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You look for the right words that would make all these friends and guests know
how you appreciate them for coming, yet you couldn’t find any. You return their
smiles, you stammer, cough and finally get some few words together that didn’t
sound right. Finally, you see your guests still staring but their smiles were
replaced with shock and dismay. You sit down, flustered and embarrassed.
This may sound like some scene from a bad dream, but giving toasts and speeches
during weddings can be as nerve-wracking for many people as the “I do” part. It
is not always the bride and groom who find the situation stressful, even the
best man or the parents of the newly-weds can find the situation quite daunting
especially if they are not particularly fond of speaking publicly.
One doesn’t really have to master public speaking to be able to give a sensible
speech during weddings. Your audience is people close to you and they are not
expecting a verbose speech like a campaigning politician. Nor do they expect you
to use polysyllabic words that would make them think of searching the dictionary
after the reception.
Speak to them as you would in an ordinary setting when you tell them something
that happened to you in the past. Make them smile with your sincerity and help
them feel that they are listening to a friend. Trying to make your speech too
formal can make them feel alienated and wonder if it is really you speaking in
front of them.
For someone who’s new to public speaking, it would help to create a list of all
the things you want to say. Do this at least a week before the wedding to avoid
cramming. Cut down on all the unnecessary stuff like stories of how you met and
how you love each other. Leave this to your friends.
Concentrate on the ‘thank you’ part. You can say some words to your new spouse
but don’t be overly dramatic nor too formal. It would help to look him or her in
the eye and say the words as if you are alone. After all, it’s your wedding and
nothing matters more than being true to each other on your first moments as
husband and wife.
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